What to Wear in your Dating Profile Pictures

What to Wear in your Dating Profile Pictures

When you book yourself in for a dating photoshoot, one of the biggest concerns is what to wear in your dating profile pictures. Everyone is unique and the easiest way to meet your match online is to show as much of your authentic self as you feel comfortable. For some people, it’s just a matter of going through their wardrobe, finding their ‘hot’ first date outfit, one of their favourite weekend outfits and perhaps their yoga gear.

But for others, the challenge of what clothes to bring on their shoot is a lot harder. Clothes haven’t played as big a role as normal in 2021.

I chatted to Sunna, the lovely founder of London Fashion Insider, a personal styling consultancy, for her tips on how to decide what to wear in your dating profile pictures.

Hey Sunna, tell us a bit about why you set up London Fashion Insider and what it is exactly you do. 

I’ve worked in the fashion industry for over 15 years, but when I started I jumped in completely at the deep end! I opened my own boutique ‘Yates Buchanan’, in Notting Hill. I had no experience in the industry, apart from wearing the clothes as a model and actress. My passion for style and helping people to look their best gave me the courage to go for it.

I was bullied at school for being square. I was a classic ugly duckling, all braces, frizzy hair and national health glasses. But then I discovered fashion and style. My confidence grew and I loved nothing more than finding gems in charity shops and the cheaper high street stores. I got asked to help friends and relatives too. I even styled my A level History of Art teacher and take full credit for the fact that he is married now 🙂

As I had no experience in fashion retail, I did things instinctively and differently. My boutique became a home from home for a range of customers from celebrities to busy mums to high flying career women.

I later worked as a fashion buyer and manager for Simon Burstein of ‘Browns’. After three years there, I had a long think about what aspect of fashion I enjoyed the most. For me, the reward of working face to face with a client, getting to know them and helping them to develop their own style was what I loved. Thus, London Fashion Insider was born.

I offer a range of packages for my clients. The most popular are wardrobe consultations, personal shopping sessions and online styling advice.

We only have one life and my clients want to make the most of themselves. My typical clients might be in a style rut or their body shape may have changed. Perhaps they have got a new job or are going through a break up. I work with both men and women and have styled clients from 11 – 89 years old! By choosing to do what I love, my job has never felt like work…

Our dating photoshoots aim to create a collection of photos that deliver a visually compelling, authentic ‘brand’ story for each of our clients. How would you recommend our clients plan their top 3 outfits?

Most people are drawn towards colours that suit them and I would say that is the most important thing. The right colour can light you up, make your skin glow, your teeth look white and your eyes pop. The wrong colour can completely drain you. It will accentuate the shadows under your eyes, bring out red, sallow or ashy tones in your skin and make your eyes look dull.

During model shoots a gold or silver reflector is often used to light up the skin and wearing the right colour can do the same.

Clothes give big clues as to your personality and this is your chance to visually say a little bit about who you are. Are you extrovert, introvert, fashion conscious, nerdy, outdoorsy, flamboyant, safe, creative, formal, casual? We read all these things subliminally from the clothes people wear. I would recommend that at least one of your pictures should show how you might dress on a first date and I would try and express a different aspect of your personality with each outfit.

Psychologists say that we make judgments about people within a tenth of a second, so this will give you a better chance at success.

As our clients are on the move during a shoot. In addition, most of our photos are from the waist up.  Do you have any recommendations for a capsule wardrobe they could bring to help with this?

Absolutely. I would  recommend bringing a couple of go-to tops that you know suit you. If you get the chance I would also recommend buying one new item. It’s always a boost to our confidence to wear something new.

Choose a neckline that suits you. For example, a polo neck can show off a defined jawline, a v neck can show off a curvy figure, an upturned collar can frame the face etc.

Also don’t forget accessories. These really show personality and style in your dating profile pictures. It could be a hat, scarf, tie, watch, laptop bag, a pair of glasses, a necklace or a favourite pair of earrings.

A couple of tops, shirts or dresses will suffice as your base garments. They can be layered with a blazer, leather jacket, scarf etc. You can dress them up with a pocket scarf, jewellery etc. for a smarter more glamorous look.

If you are someone who never wears a tie, likes your shirt unbuttoned and only wears t-shirts, don’t wear one now.

Are there any looks that should be avoided on camera? i.e. they’re too unflattering. 

Yes. there are a couple of things to avoid.

1/ wearing the wrong colour.

2/ wearing an item where the proportions are wrong for your features, i.e. a garment with too wide or too narrow shoulders, too high or low a neckline, a print that overwhelms you rather than showing you off,

3/ wearing something to try and be something you’re not. Never compete. Be your own unique yourself, but a slightly elevated version of you. Your best self.

On dating apps, you only have a short window of time to attract people, so you need to stop someone in their tracks.

Finally any tips for looks that come across as amazing on camera?

Yes definitely.  Make sure you have a twinkle in your eye and a natural smile. Engage with the photographer and your environment or a prop. Be open and inviting. Wear colours that light you up. Finally, choose something that makes you feel great when you wear it.

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So yeah, I did a thing… Hey Saturday now has a podcast mini series, ‘Shoot Your Shot - The Art of Dating Profile Pictures’, for all your dating profile photo needs in one place 🎧✨

Press play on this show for jam-packed mini episodes that will inspire you to experiment, have fun and aim higher when creating your profile pictures for online dating apps.

I share my top mindset shifts and practical steps you can take to create dating profile photos that are both visually and emotionally compelling, to help you attract more and better quality matches on dating apps.

This podcast is for people with a short attention-span but a big vision for their love lives 🙌🏽

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I was invited on @unhingedandbumbledup podcast the other day & it was probably the most fun I’ve had recording a podcast.

Ahead of the show, I had to give them both a dating photo challenge and they presented the photos they created to me during the show.

Tune into to see who does it better, Phil or Jane. It was a super close competition to be honest… but there was a clear winner 👏🏽👏🏽

I also shared

• What makes an awesome dating profile pic
• Why good photos are so important
• My 4 top favourite date spots around the globe (I just couldn’t choose one) and much more…

Have you subscribed to this chatty, fun show that shares experiences and opinions on how to navigate the tricky world of dating to come out on top?

Thanks for having me Phil & Jane 🙏🏽

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…how would you show up?

I get a lot of emails from clients asking how and where they can do their photoshoots without many people seeing them. Ummm ….

To be fair, it’d probably be my first question too, if I were in their shoes. I’m not exactly known for being a natural badass in front of the lens (there’s a reason I prefer being behind it!).

But, thing is, those people really don’t care about what’s happening in your photoshoot. And why would you concern yourself worrying about what people - you don’t even know - think about you for 30 seconds?

Fear makes no sense, even after you unpick it and challenge it. It’s still there. Being fearless is actually really hard… however you could try this… choose to ‘act as if’ you’re fearless! Yeah, how would that look? How would you show up then? Really think about how you would approach it. And then, just as an experiment, do that.

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+ The Ex-Philes Podcast +

I had the pleasure of being invited onto an episode of the dating podcast, ’The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On’ recently & was interviewed by the two awesome hosts, Clair Lofthouse & Janice Formichella.

Thank you so much to both of you, I really enjoyed connecting & sharing my top dating profile picture expertise with you.

If you are getting over a breakup? I would highly recommend tuning in & subscribing.

Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast all about healing a broken heart, building your confidence, and moving forward in an empowered way.

Their favorite topics include healing from heartbreak, dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, self-help, attachment styles and more.

Thanks Janice & Clair 🙏🏽

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Dating profiles have the potential to be intriguing; they can be a window into someone’s mind, revealing their unique way of looking at & thinking about the world.

Make sure you grab that opportunity to show people what you’re about & what you’re made of 🔥🔥

And remember, your profile pics are the most powerful way to share a lot of information about you at just a glance.

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+ Sound on for dating photo tips & good times +

Huge shout out to the legend that is James Preece, the UK dating coach king. Thank you for having me on your show, @jamespreececoach. I had a great time sharing my top dating photo tips with you, which I’m pretty sure you can tell when you listen in.

Have you subscribed to the Love Machine Podcast yet?

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You know what I love doing when I have a few moments to myself? … I love navigating to our Story highlights & scrolling through ‘Our Pics’. It gives me a legal, natural high every time.

The colour, the personalities, the vibes, the diverse life styles, the passions, the people… so much dating photoshoot awesomeness in one hit 🙌🏽✨🤩

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We need to talk about ‘talking point’ pics. Talking point pics are the ones that make people stop and do a double take, go back for another look and, yeah, slide into your messages because they need to know more.

Maybe you’re practicing tai chi, playing a ukulele, creating a stunning art piece on your iPad, doing a headstand yoga pose in the street or wrapping your hands ready for boxing (all shots we’ve taken, that have made me go back for another look 👀 check our Stories today!). Shots like these are so compelling.

Look, 5-6 photos at any one time on your dating app profile is optimum. Too few, people think you’re hiding something, too many & it’s game over as you give them too much to find fault with.

So you’ve got just 5-6 opportunities to
+ make an emotional impact
+ visually tell your story
+ and… also, importantly, intrigue people enough to reach out and ask you something or connect with you about something they see 👀

// Each one of your dating profile photos needs to bring something to the party //

So take a moment to check out your profile pics now. Which one is your ‘talking point’ pic? Answers on a postcard or in the comments, I really want to know…

And a big shout out goes out to the client I’ve been chatting with this week who’s booked Dumbo. You know who you are. You have so many exciting ideas for your shoot, I think you’re going to have a few ‘talking point’ pics to choose from 🙌🏽 And I’m so glad our Insta feed has helped you prep for your shoot. That makes me very happy.

*Tai chi photo: Kate for Hey Saturday, London

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New here? Come in, look around, stay awhile. We're creating our own brand of dating photo magic, right here. J'adoring these shots taken in Shoreditch by our London photographer, Nicole.

Photo credit: Nicole for Hey Saturday, London

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The only mantra you’ll ever need before your dating photoshoot
+ Be bold, kill boring, do ‘you’, stand out +

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