As Saskia, our head honcho, is the leading UK and US dating photography expert, she regularly appears in the press, key podcasts and on the radio. She is also multi award-winning dating expert in the UK. For press inquiries, please contact Saskia on [email protected]
+ 100th Photoshoot Alert + I'm pretty sure it's been a while since we hotfooted it over to NYC to showcase some of our latest DUMBO work.
Our super cool NYC photographer, Alison, has been one of our busiest photographers over the last few months, despite Covid and lockdowns so I wanna give her a special shout out today, especially as we're just about to book her 100th Hey Saturday photoshoot, dang. Great stuff, Alison. Love your work.
Photo credit: Alison for Hey Saturday, New York City
Great online dating photographers are focused on human experience, rather than the size of our lenses.
Yeah… I’d go as far to say, we view our photoshoots as an emotional journey with a physical output more than anything else.
We want to help you let people in and get a better sense of who you are… the real you, of course, (in reply to a comment I got yesterday), if your photos are going to be meaningful, in any way.
When you can bring your whole self to the shoot, it’s kind of magic, really. When you can craft images that tell stories about who you are, it’s powerful and empowering, because when stories are told, meaning is made.
For dating photos that surprise, delight and inspire love and adventure... look no further than our photo queen on the streets of Manchester. Her work is pure magic and always so very Hey Saturday. Shouts out, Livia, for another gorgeous set that makes my heart sing and my head spin.
How you show up for your profile pictures matters. The energy you show up with for your photoshoot, is the same energy that online daters can see and feel when they look at your profile pictures.
And yes, you can absolutely see and feel energy in pictures. You can see if someone is happy, dejected or confident, for example.
Confidence is energy. It’s not a ‘trait’ that you either are or aren’t, it’s a state. Like happiness, sadness & joy, it’s an energy you can tap into.
To create the most attractive and magnetic profile pictures, tap into the energy you want to see in your photos.
Get excited about how these profile pictures are going to open up doors, connect you to all kinds of interesting people, potentially lead to something so good, it’s life-changing.
Harness these positive kind of thoughts and embody them through your breathing, through smiling and laughing, through your body language. You know how smiling makes you feel happy and standing in a power pose makes you feel more confident? Yes 🙌🏽 that.
Your body language in your pictures communicates a lot about your energy and vibe.
Include things you really love in your photoshoot. You might wear something you love, go somewhere you love, hold something you love or, even better, get in flow and do something you love.
Including things that spark joy will impact your body language and your whole vibe.
Hey go-getters, thrill-seekers, online daters... have you checked out the podcast Dates & Mates yet? If you’re single and craving connection in a digitally-driven world, then head to Apple podcasts and hit subscribe.
This show is seriously guaranteed to give you more fun than your ex. And boy, what a show. The host Damona Hoffman, already one of the coolest humans on the planet, is now also the Official Love Expert of the Drew Barrymore Show ✨ as well an advice columnist for The Washington Post & much more.
I’ll admit I was a bit of a hot mess as a guest on her show but it was ace to be included on her latest episode. I share how to do online dating photos right and magnetise the best matches to you.
And don’t forget to hit subscribe, there are soooo many good episodes you’re going to wanna work your way through.
When I was told this, back when I was online dating, I have to say it was a bit of a game changer. Your first instinct is to think, ‘Wait, what?’.
But then I thought back to people I’d met in my (very) long and varied dating life... and how my first impressions of their attractiveness could wildly change as soon as I started engaging with them.
That’s because I was seeing them as they see themselves.
Self-love levels the playing field. You don’t have to be the hottest person in the room to be the hottest person in the room... you just have to THINK you are.
Wow, I love that. It means being attractive, magnetic, desired is within all of us. We just gotta dig deep and love ourselves. No way round it.
Your vibe reflects the way you see yourself and cues others to respond accordingly.
I’m just getting into the Law of Attraction and figuring out how to raise my vibrations, which builds on this. And it’s so relevant to dating, I’ve got a feeling I’m gonna be sharing my learnings on here soon.
Anyone got any recommendations of people I can follow who are talking about vibrating higher? Please share 🙏🏽
Your dating app profile ain’t the place to blend in. I know we all want to belong and fit in. But... this isn’t the time.
So many profiles are literally copy cats of each other. It’s sooo boring. Especially given the fact we’re all so different & amazing once you get to know us.
Take a risk. Reveal something meaningful about yourself in your profile. Write down all the things that make you stand out from others and then choose a couple of those to reveal in your profile photos.
People are gonna stare. Make it worth their while.
If 'cool' was a person, this client has it nailed. Love these shots he created with our photographer Alison in the East Village, NYC... literally such a mood.
Show up to your photoshoot with the energy you want to portray and the energy you want to attract. That's such a great starting place to help us create a set of photos that capture your story and vibe.
Photo credit: Alison for Hey Saturday, New York City
I mean dare to be real. Dare to be vulnerable. Dare to try something different. Dare to date someone different. Dare to put yourself out there. Dare to dance on your dating photoshoot. Dare to mess up. Dare to stand out on your dating profile. Dare to be disliked by some.
I think it was Kurt Vonnegut who said, ‘How embarrassing to be human’.
But go suck, I dare you!
At the end of that lies adventure, mayhem, great profile pics and, with a little bit of luck, authentic love.
Checking our Magic 8 ball for a heck yes...and the stars are aligning for this client. We see a crazy, bright dating future for this one with these gorgeous visually + emotionally compelling profile pics..
Big shout out to the fabulous Kate, shooting in Shoreditch for this cool set. Loving these.
One of the best gifts you can give yourself? Letting go of what other people think about you.
Most of us worry too much about what others think to the point that we are far too inhibited and far less spontaneous and joyful than we could be.
Truth is (studies show), we consistently overestimate just how much - and how badly - others think about our failings.
Problem is, giving fewer fucks is super hard, we are such a social species.
We care so much about others because our happiness depends on the quality of our relationships. We need people and we want to be in their good books so that we can belong, fit in & nurture good relationships with them.
While a certain amount of it is healthy, too much is not. But what can you do to put the breaks on?
Let’s imagine you’re on a dating photoshoot but you can’t stop worrying about what random people in the street are thinking.
In reality, you know it really doesn’t matter what those people think. You don’t know them from Adam. And your photos... well they might just help you transform your love life, right, so they’re kind of important.
But knowing that doesn’t stop you feeling embarrassed.
Here’s one thing you could try. A moment of mindfulness.
Try six deep breaths in and out, with your photographer, feeling how the air enters and leaves your body and how your feet are connected to the ground.
At the end of this lies potential for even greater profile pics.
If you’re thinking about creating some new dating profile pics, here’s some homework to help you prepare. Take a moment to ask yourself how you’d want to show up if you knew the love of your life was going to see these photos.
Photos, when created intentionally, are such a powerful tool for communicating who you are.
Plan to create photos that take people on a whistle stop tour of your vibe, your passions, your personality and your strengths.
You’ll find that you’re more easily able to connect with all and any ideal soulmates who come across your profile.
Don’t forget to keep it real. As real as you feel able.
Great photos attract attention. Authentic ones keep it.
On dating apps, success is often determined by a split-second decision made after glimpsing, sometimes, just one photo. You gotta make sure every photo is an amazing one.
Here’s a secret hack, not many people know. Open, expansive body language in photos is crazy attractive, drawing the right kind of attention online.
This is backed by science actually - not just your friendly dating photo expert 😉
For those of you who love the science bit, academic researchers found that outstretched limbs increase attractiveness for all genders - but guys in particular. It suggests dominance for guys and confidence for guys and women.
With this in mind, make sure you take up space in your photos! Own it! Do some power poses to get in the mood. Throw your shoulders back. Fling your arms out. Have your hands spread out. Have fun experimenting.
No crossed arms or hunching over on our watch!
Be the star of every single shot. You only get 5 to 6 shots, you need to make sure all of them are doing the heavy lifting for you.
What really matters to you in life? What’s important to you?
Showing up authentically on your dating photoshoot and in your dating life is the biggest gift you can give yourself.
It enables you to meet and connect with people on a deeper level. Imagine - no pretence and no games 🙌🏽
And it all starts with knowing yourself better.
I reckon a good starting place is writing out a list of all the things in life that are important to you.
We encourage our clients to do this ahead of their dating photoshoots.
It helps you get to the heart of what you want out of life, what you want out of your love life.
Knowing ourselves is a life-long process but it’s so good to check in on ourselves often, especially when we’re starting big things like online dating.
And by taking the time to think about it and let us, your photographers know, it helps us more easily create dating profile pictures that represent what you stand for. What you’re about. What makes you unique and special.
On my List of Stuff I Care About, I have: - being creative - keep on learning & growing - love & connection - being physically active - helping people - finding peace in nature
My dating profile pictures might then include me taking photos or painting, reading a self-help book or studying, walking or meditating in nature. I might wear my jumper with the word ‘love’ on it. I might be drinking tea in front of a cafe with friends (who aren’t actually in the pic). When planning your shoot, your list acts as a guide to make sure you’re telling people something meaningful about you.