What to wear in your online dating profile pictures

What to wear in your online dating profile pictures

So you’ve got your Hey Saturday dating photo shoot booked, hurrah. Now what? I can guarantee you’re starting to panic about what on earth to wear for your shoot. OK so don’t panic, but it is well worth the effort spending a bit of time considering this and planning what you’re going to bring, to make sure your photos are the best they can be. Clothes, and how you choose to wear them, are important as they will help you tell your story and show people who you are. They’re an extension of our lifestyle, our personality, our mentality and even our social status, so you can be very sure that potential dates are paying close attention.

From the brands you wear to the style you favour, you’re giving them critical information which will actually go a long way to helping them decide if they’re interested or not – often subconsciously. Your clothes are making a statement about you and it’s important to check that they’re giving the right message about you. Interestingly, there’s scientific proof backing the idea that you should dress not how you feel, but how you want to feel.  The clothes you choose are sending a message to those around you, but also to you, yourself. I love this. This means you can choose whether you want to portray yourself as bold, strong, sexy, in control, etc.  Self-love is hugely important in online dating so this is a good time to revisit up your self-love. If your clothes are sending out the right messages about who you are, then you’ll start attracting better quality dates. Yasss!!

 

What to wear for your dating photos

Wear what you’d wear on a first date

So the most important outfit you need to bring to your photo shoot is that outfit you always save for a first date. You know the one! It’s the one that one that makes you feel cool, sexy and confident. Your go-to first date outfit! Bring that. Everyone is different so this means different things to different people. We don’t tell you what that outfit should be (we’ll all about creating authentic photos that are representative of you) but hopefully you’ll just know. And if you’re thinking you don’t have an outfit like that right now, eek, it might be time to hit the shops and invest in one. Yes, I know, I know, it’s another expense, but you’ve got to invest in this online dating journey if you want to get good quality, fast results. Making the effort for your photo shoot just as you would for a first date guarantees that you’ll be looking at your most attractive.

And an added benefit is that you’ll actually turn up on the date looking like you do in your photos. A rare treat! Match.com said in a recent survey that the primary reason that people don’t get second dates is due to ‘unmet expectations’ i.e. they appear different in real life than they did in their dating profile.

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Wear what makes you feel confident

What we’ve found in our years of experience, is that clients who come to their photo shoot rocking the self-confidence, end up with the best dating photos. It doesn’t matter how ‘traditionally’ good-looking they are, this has always been the case. This makes sense, the better you feel about yourself, the happier and more relaxed you’ll appear in front of the camera, plus confidence is super attractive. The good thing about this, is that it levels the playing field. You don’t need to be the most ‘attractive’ person in the room, instead focus on feeling good about yourself, happy in your skin. People are hugely drawn to that. With that in mind, make sure that all the outfits your bring make you feel really good about yourself. It could be that cool leather jacket that makes you look like a rock-star or those stilettos that make you walk with just the right amount of wiggle.

Wear an outfit that shows your more casual side

So you’ve nailed some shots showcasing your first-date outfit. It’s also a good idea to show off your more casual, laid-back side. You know, that version of you that will be chilling on a Sunday morning over brunch once you’ve started seeing someone. If you’re the kind of person who spends time in jeans and tee-shirts or similar, then you need to get a great shot of you rocking this vibe too. Think about what you typically wear when you’re heading out to catch a movie, or see an exhibition in town. But remember, even though you capturing some more laid-back shots, you still need to be super confident. So leave the old sweatpants and holey tee shirts at home! We want casual but you’re still out to impress. Leave the sweatpants for when you’re 6 months into the relationship (or 3 in my case, sorry Giles!).

What to wear in your dating photos

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Wear clothes that showcase your personality or personal brand

Online dating is really about reaching out and connecting with people in your tribe. And what is one of the biggest indicators of this in photos? Yup, your clothes. Our choice in clothes help place us in where we think we want to be in society and attract people who want to be there with us. Whatever you choose to wear will tell people who you are so make sure you’re sending the right message.

Think about who you are, what’s important to you, what your interests are and hopefully that will steer you towards putting together your remaining outfits. If you’re into going to gigs a lot, then choose a typical outfit you’d wear gigging. Into sports? Bring your running, cycling or yoga outfit if you want to show people how important it is to you. These sporty photos are known to attract lots of attention online too as people are always keen to match with someone who is physically fit and active. If you’re into designer labels, show them off.

Don’t forget to pack some bold accessories, which are great for showing your personality too. This isn’t just for women, of course. My boyfriend loves his bold jewellery and it’s a huge part of who he is.

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what to wear in your dating photos

Embrace colour

As a visual creative, I’ve known for years the importance of colour in dating photos. People are naturally drawn to bold, bright colours in photos rather than more neutral colours so we always advise people to bring some colourful items to their shoot, even if it’s only your accessories. It’s OK, if you’re not into bright colour though, heck I only ever wear black it seems. Don’t worry, your photographer will aim to find some colourful backgrounds to add some vibrancy to your shots. But if you do love a bit of colour, then please bring it. Colour blocking works particularly well as does the colour red. Red represents love, passion, dating, romance etc. Basically red stimulates a faster heartbeat mimicking the feelings of the early stages of romantic love and lust. A big tick then for this!

Wear well fitting clothes

This seems obvious but actually it might be tempting to wear baggy clothes (perhaps if you’re larger than you’d like) or super tight clothes because you think they show off your figure. But baggy and super tight clothing does not look good on camera. Always choose well-fitting or shaped/tailored outfits to show off your physique to the best advantage.

And what to avoid wearing

If you want to know how to avoid giving a bad impression, Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner, who wrote the book “What your clothes say about you”, says “The worst clothing is the kind that tries to undo, ignore or hide where or who you are, or the kind that shows you didn’t pay attention to your body/age/situation ..”

And don’t forget the most important piece of advice

Dress for your dating photo shoot as though you’re going to bump into your ex

– Saskia Nelson

 

Words and photos by Saskia Nelson

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Dating profiles have the potential to be intriguing; they can be a window into someone’s mind, revealing their unique way of looking at & thinking about the world.

Make sure you grab that opportunity to show people what you’re about & what you’re made of 🔥🔥

And remember, your profile pics are the most powerful way to share a lot of information about you at just a glance.

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We need to talk about ‘talking point’ pics. Talking point pics are the ones that make people stop and do a double take, go back for another look and, yeah, slide into your messages because they need to know more.

Maybe you’re practicing tai chi, playing a ukulele, creating a stunning art piece on your iPad, doing a headstand yoga pose in the street or wrapping your hands ready for boxing (all shots we’ve taken, that have made me go back for another look 👀 check our Stories today!). Shots like these are so compelling.

Look, 5-6 photos at any one time on your dating app profile is optimum. Too few, people think you’re hiding something, too many & it’s game over as you give them too much to find fault with.

So you’ve got just 5-6 opportunities to
+ make an emotional impact
+ visually tell your story
+ and… also, importantly, intrigue people enough to reach out and ask you something or connect with you about something they see 👀

// Each one of your dating profile photos needs to bring something to the party //

So take a moment to check out your profile pics now. Which one is your ‘talking point’ pic? Answers on a postcard or in the comments, I really want to know…

And a big shout out goes out to the client I’ve been chatting with this week who’s booked Dumbo. You know who you are. You have so many exciting ideas for your shoot, I think you’re going to have a few ‘talking point’ pics to choose from 🙌🏽 And I’m so glad our Insta feed has helped you prep for your shoot. That makes me very happy.

*Tai chi photo: Kate for Hey Saturday, London

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Photo credit: Nicole for Hey Saturday, London

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The only mantra you’ll ever need before your dating photoshoot
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The more self-work you do now, the more amazing your next relationship will be.

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Do your dating profile pics look the same as everyone else’s? You’re pretty sure you’ve read the right blog posts and followed all the steps but actually your photos still aren’t making people walk straight into lamp posts or miss their stop on the last bus home.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes at the end of a long day, I just crave seeing something that makes me smile, makes me feel good, you know… that ‘happy to be alive’ kind of good.

Picture it… you’ve just been on a rubbish date and are feeling disillusioned on the bus home so you decide to jump back on the app to line up another one before you lose the will.

Now imagine, at this point, you spot a profile pic that fills you with joy. There’s just something about it that makes you smile or makes you feel excited or just glad to be alive again.

Now that… that’s the exact profile, you’re immediately going to swipe right on… damn!

Nothing else matters in that moment. You want more of whoever can make you feel that good in that moment.

But how can you create dating pictures like this? The best way to create photos like that is to actually ‘feel this way’ when you’re making the picture. Bring this energy and vibe to the photoshoot. Bring props that will make you feel happy or relive happy moments during the shoot. Do things, hold things, wear things, go places that make you feel that kind of happy… and it will translate into your profile pictures.

It’s so important to figure out what you’re into and what makes you feel good before your photoshoot and before dating so that you show up and attract more of this energy into your life.

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Great online dating photographers are focused on human experience, rather than the size of our lenses.

Yeah… I’d go as far to say, we view our photoshoots as an emotional journey with a physical output more than anything else.

We want to help you let people in and get a better sense of who you are… the real you, of course, (in reply to a comment I got yesterday), if your photos are going to be meaningful, in any way.

When you can bring your whole self to the shoot, it’s kind of magic, really. When you can craft images that tell stories about who you are, it’s powerful and empowering, because when stories are told, meaning is made.

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How you show up for your profile pictures matters. The energy you show up with for your photoshoot, is the same energy that online daters can see and feel when they look at your profile pictures.

And yes, you can absolutely see and feel energy in pictures. You can see if someone is happy, dejected or confident, for example.

Confidence is energy. It’s not a ‘trait’ that you either are or aren’t, it’s a state. Like happiness, sadness & joy, it’s an energy you can tap into.

To create the most attractive and magnetic profile pictures, tap into the energy you want to see in your photos.

But how?

Get excited about how these profile pictures are going to open up doors, connect you to all kinds of interesting people, potentially lead to something so good, it’s life-changing.

Harness these positive kind of thoughts and embody them through your breathing, through smiling and laughing, through your body language. You know how smiling makes you feel happy and standing in a power pose makes you feel more confident? Yes 🙌🏽 that.

Your body language in your pictures communicates a lot about your energy and vibe.

Include things you really love in your photoshoot. You might wear something you love, go somewhere you love, hold something you love or, even better, get in flow and do something you love.

Including things that spark joy will impact your body language and your whole vibe.

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Hey go-getters, thrill-seekers, online daters... have you checked out the podcast Dates & Mates yet? If you’re single and craving connection in a digitally-driven world, then head to Apple podcasts and hit subscribe.

This show is seriously guaranteed to give you more fun than your ex. And boy, what a show. The host Damona Hoffman, already one of the coolest humans on the planet, is now also the Official Love Expert of the Drew Barrymore Show ✨ as well an advice columnist for The Washington Post & much more.

I’ll admit I was a bit of a hot mess as a guest on her show but it was ace to be included on her latest episode. I share how to do online dating photos right and magnetise the best matches to you.

And don’t forget to hit subscribe, there are soooo many good episodes you’re going to wanna work your way through.

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You are as hot as you think you are.

I love this.

When I was told this, back when I was online dating, I have to say it was a bit of a game changer. Your first instinct is to think, ‘Wait, what?’.

But then I thought back to people I’d met in my (very) long and varied dating life... and how my first impressions of their attractiveness could wildly change as soon as I started engaging with them.

That’s because I was seeing them as they see themselves.

Self-love levels the playing field. You don’t have to be the hottest person in the room to be the hottest person in the room... you just have to THINK you are.

Wow, I love that. It means being attractive, magnetic, desired is within all of us. We just gotta dig deep and love ourselves. No way round it.

Your vibe reflects the way you see yourself and cues others to respond accordingly.

I’m just getting into the Law of Attraction and figuring out how to raise my vibrations, which builds on this. And it’s so relevant to dating, I’ve got a feeling I’m gonna be sharing my learnings on here soon.

Anyone got any recommendations of people I can follow who are talking about vibrating higher? Please share 🙏🏽

I’m ready to vibe higher. Are you?

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Your dating app profile ain’t the place to blend in. I know we all want to belong and fit in. But... this isn’t the time.

So many profiles are literally copy cats of each other. It’s sooo boring. Especially given the fact we’re all so different & amazing once you get to know us.

Take a risk. Reveal something meaningful about yourself in your profile. Write down all the things that make you stand out from others and then choose a couple of those to reveal in your profile photos.

People are gonna stare.
Make it worth their while.

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This message makes my heart do little backflips. I love that this client felt seen by Nicole and was able to express her best self.

And I love that she took the time to share her gratitude with me and Nicole.

I have a strong feeling that when this client finds love, it’s going to be pretty special.

💛 Very exciting 💛

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I’m sharing my face because we have a bunch of new followers, yay hi there, and also because my jumper is very on brand and that’s kind of what I wanted to talk about today.

In your profile pics, your clothes are saying a lot more about you than you might think.

Our clothes are telling people a lot about our lifestyle, our social status, our personality and our vibe ... oh yeah and in my case, my job!

So what do you want your clothes to say about you? That you’re cool, confident, nerdish, feminine, comfortable, stylish, independent, fashionable, glam, extrovert, etc?

By choosing your clothes with intention, you can reveal elements of your personality that might otherwise not come across easily in your pictures.

And our clothes choices actually have more power than we think.

The psychologist, Dr Jennifer Baumgartner (a total expert on this stuff), says,

‘You can use your wardrobe to change how other people perceive you, and even more importantly - how you see yourself’.

I’ve shared that before but I love it so much. This is that moment when the outfit you put on makes you feel invincible & unstoppable. Perfect for a photoshoot or some first date action.

Lots of photoshoots coming up this bank holiday weekend, so this is your reminder to prep your outfits with intention.

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This is big-ass Hey Saturday energy right here...

‘Shoot your shot’ is:

🎯 to let go of your pride & pursue someone you’re into;

🎯 to be brave & have the audacity to do something that might be embarrassing;

🎯 to do, say or claim a thing that is potentially outside of your range of abilities.

This is the kinda energy that works so well on dating photoshoots & online dating.

People out there, living their best lives, willing to shoot their shot.

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