what it takes to bring your online dating profile to life
Bring your online dating profile to life
Hello, today my blog has been taken over by the lovely Rachael, the founder of www.datemy.co.uk, a new matchmaking site where people can match make a single friend, family member of even co-worker. Over to Rachael…
Being the owner of datemy.co.uk I get to vet all of the new members signed up by their family and loved ones before their profile goes live on datemy. It’s a lovely job reading heart-warming words from all sorts of people, but I have to say I’ve been surprised by the amount of people who don’t add a photo.
the one thing to bring your dating profile to life
I don’t want to compare online dating to online shopping, but I’m going to! Imagine you need a new pair of shoes. You’ve found a great website, you think you know what you’re looking for but you’d like to browse. You’ve filtered size and type, and up come 10 suggestions. But 9 out of 10 have no photos. You read a couple of descriptions, “Classic, casual, reliable sole” “Warm, slim heel, sturdy straps” Ok sounds great, but are you going to add any of them to your basket without seeing a little more? Probably not!
It’s the same thing with online dating. I met my boyfriend in a crowded bar, if one of us had a bag on our head we wouldn’t have met! It may sound a little shallow, but I’m not talking about how attractive you are, this is about putting a face to a name. Having no photo may add an element of mystery; but it’s not doing you any favours. With no physical cues available online, a photo helps you to stand out amongst a crowd of other members. That’s why having a poor quality photo can be just as bad as having no photo at all!
And there is scientific proof behind it all. People are more likely to form relationships with someone who is equally matched in qualities like, similar facial attractiveness. It’s called the “Matching Hypothesis”. When I’m matching people I’ll consider their interests, description, age etc. but their picture is a strong factor in the matching process.
No one is crazy about pictures of themselves. If you don’t feel confident with your photos our advice is to find someone you feel really comfortable around and get them to take photos of you in a natural setting. That’s why we encourage our members to get their Matchmaker to take photos for them. Because of Facebook it’s understandable you may not have any high quality pictures of yourself. You might have a fuzzy image where you’ve cropped your best pose out of a group shot…don’t worry if this is you, it’s better than nothing, but do you stand out?
make it light, bright & happy
It’s great when I see a new sign up who has a light, bright and happy profile photo. I know instantly that their Matchbox will be brimming with match requests. We want our members to be successfully matched and the secret to this is having a photo that brings you and your profile to life!
Head over to www.datemy.co.uk to try out this new matchmaking site. And you can connect with Rachael via www.twitter.com/thedatemy or www.twitter.com/rachaeldatemy or on facebook via www.facebook.com/datemy.co.uk