3 dating mantras to keep you sane
My top 3 dating mantras to keep you sane in a mad world
I remember well how online dating can drive you mad over a period of time. For some people, that period of time isn’t very long at all. So with that in mind, here are my top 3 mantras which I recommend you keep close.
1. It only takes one
This was my most used mantra of all. I went on a lot of dates in 7 years and every time I came to the understanding that this guy wasn’t going to last, for whatever reason, I would always come back to this; it only takes one to stick. And that is what happened. I kept on going, taking breaks when I needed to, with this mantra running through my head ‘itonlytakesoneitonlytakesone’ and it kept me uplifted and resilient until I found one the one that worked.
2. No regrets
I could look back on my online dating years as my ‘lost’ years but why would I? Those years had a real impact on who I am today and in fact have helped shape my career into the success it is by giving me my niche. Never regret anything you do, just remember to learn from it and make the most out of every experience. For every bad date I went on, I would use what I learned to help figure out what I didn’t want in my future partner. The fact that I went on many bad dates meant I learnt A LOT about what I didn’t want so ultimately I managed to spot someone who was a great fit for me really easily when he finally came along.
3. Can I get a ‘heck, yeah!’
This is a new mantra sent to me by *Rebecca Perkins, who already knows me so well even though we’ve only met a few times. So this mantra is critical, which is why I left it last. If, when you’re dating, you find you have to ask friends and family what you think the person you’re seeing means by this text or that message or how he acted when he or she walked out the other night with a ‘see ya’, then you’re not with someone worth your time. Believe me when I say that when that someone, who is going to be the big one, comes along then you will know it. How? Everything they say and do will make you think and feel, ‘heck, yeah!’ You don’t need to interpret cryptic messages or strange behaviours because they will tell you and show you exactly how they feel and it will feel awesome. So, if you’re not feeling it, it’s because it’s not right.
*Watch out in 2015 by the way for an exciting partnership with Rebecca and I, which is going to be irresistible to anyone in the dating world who is serious about finding love online – but more about that soon.
I hope you found this useful? Let me know if you have any mantras of your own that you think should be included here. I’d love to hear from you…