The Power of Harnessing New Habits For Lasting Positive Change

The Power of Harnessing New Habits For Lasting Positive Change

When you think about the word ‘habits’, it seems like a fairly unassuming word. But, it’s not actually a word many of us think much about at all. Its very nature means taking action without giving it much, if any, thought.

Habits, however, are the essential foundation beneath any productivity practice.

The appearance of superhuman levels of self-discipline is simply a collection of strong habits, carefully cultivated over time.’  – Chris Sparkes

With this in mind, mediocrity is nothing but a collection of poor habits left unexamined and unchallenged to take over someone’s life and lifestyle.

What are habits?

Habits can be defined as an “automatic behaviour that is triggered by context from the situation.”

Humans are, by nature, creatures of habit. According to Chris Sparkes, 45% of our reported activities in a given day are habitual, performed automatically without much thought.

Wow, this actually opens up the possibility of taking back the control of over half of what we do with the rest of our life.

But right now, in the middle of lockdown during the worst pandemic the world has ever seen, this feels overwhelming at best.

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Starting small counts

A manageable place to start, during lockdown times, is by starting to think about some small habits you can start right now, that will make you feel better about yourself.

The other day, I invited Kate Oakley, a Personal Trainer @yourfuturefit, to join me on Hey Saturday’s IGTV to discuss the power of harnessing small habits to create big change. The video is below.

We cover:

  • why New Year resolutions tend to fail (especially during lockdown)
  • how to use small habits to become the person you aspire to be
  • how long it takes to form a new habit (it’s probably not the answer you’re expecting
  • why replacing a bad habit with a good one works
  • why starting with just 2 minutes here and there really works

Phew…Kate was amazing. I loved our chat so much, she was brilliant! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you.

I have learned so much and am keen to start taking a look at all my habits, good and bad. I’m going to review what I need to lose, what I need to improve and which new ones I can start to create. It’s exciting knowing I can take back the control of the direction of my life in this way.

I don’t know about you but I’m feeling fired up and inspired.

In the interview, Kate mentions the book Atomic Habit by James Clear, which is now on my 2021 reading list.

If you’re struggling during this latest lockdown, you might like to read the article I wrote during the first one on 21 things that might make life a little less stressful during lockdown.

 
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get back into online dating

Choose profile pics that tell people what it would be like to date you. What it would be like to be in a relationship with you. This will help you attract people who resonate more with your vibe.

Show them who you are, what you love, where you like to hang out, what you love to do.

Showing up authentically in your photos will help secure more and better quality dates 🙌🏽.

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Wait what? If you’re not doing this already, here’s a super simple way to increase the attention you’re attracting online.... by 27% according to @tinder.

As an experiment this week, swap out your leading photo if it doesn’t clearly show all of your face. Swap out pictures of your face that are in profile, half hidden in shadow or by sunglasses, anything like that.

Choose, instead, a good quality, well-lit, smiling close-up of your face and shoulders.

Make sure your smile or laugh is a natural one - you’ll know by checking to make sure your eyes are engaged in the smile too.

They’ll be the tell-tell crinkling of your upper cheeks. This is important to check as people are subconsciously drawn to genuine smiles and put off by fake ones.

And make sure your eyes are looking at the camera. It’s more engaging. Your eyes are the most important part of the photo - it where people look first and subconsciously decide whether you’re trustworthy or not.

OK, let me know how you get on. Oh yes and don’t forget to include bright red somewhere in the shot, if you can, to really maximise the attention you’re attracting to your profile.

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Whether you’re aware or not, your clothes are telling people a powerful story about you.

They can reveal things like what mood you’re in, what kind of lifestyle you lead, what you’re into, how much money you might earn and even how you feel about yourself.

Wow, ok. Super revealing. (And also I’m really glad no one has been able to see what I’ve been wearing the last month or so 🙈).

But, that said, there’s evidence to suggest you don’t have to dress how you feel... but how you want to feel. Brilliant!

This means, when you’re heading out for your dating photoshoot and on dates, you can choose clothes with intention. Ones that make you feel sexy, confident, in control, feminine, cool, flirty, formal, informal, comfortable or whatever you want to say about you. Keep it authentic though. The clothes need to feel right, don’t force it.

I love knowing that simply by tweaking your outfit, you can improve your whole mood and uplift your confidence levels 🔥🔥

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It’s party time at Hey Saturday HQ 🌿

We have just started a partnership with @onetreeplanted. For every Hey Saturday photoshoot we sell, a tree is planted in Ethiopia.

I’ve finally woken up and realised you can’t build a just and equitable society on a planet that’s been destabilised by human activity.

The fights against climate change and racial injustice are deeply intertwined as marginalised communities are disproportionately impacted by it.

Recently, I’ve fallen in love with trees through my forest bathing practice and they are pretty dang magical at helping to save our planet.

The tree planting project in Ethiopia links environmental restoration with income generation, providing the local community with the knowledge and tools to conserve their land, protect their water supply and create a sustainable, diverse economy for future generations 🙌🏽

*Huge thank you to David Attenborough whose powerful documentary, Our Planet, needs to be seen by everyone. It’s a huge fuck-off wake up call. We’re killing off the planet and marginalised communities are already suffering for it.

#tree_magic #trees #onetreeplanted #planetearth #savetheplanet #savetheearth #racism #equality #equalrights #lifeonearth #forest #forestbathingtherapy #ethiopia #planetearth #healthyliving
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💋9 indulgent ways to be your own dang Valentine💋

If you’re single today and feeling it, maybe it’s time to get indulgent and celebrate yourself and your most important relationship ever. If you can be someone who makes YOU happy, that’s literally the most important thing.

Plus, being single is cool af and always worth celebrating when you can. Here are 9 indulgent ways you might celebrate yourself today... give me a shout if you have others 🙌🏽

❤️ Dress up
❤️ Fill your day with positive affirmations spoken out loud to the mirror and then repeated in your head like a background mantra (sounds woo woo, but once you get over that, this is pure awesomeness)
❤️ Go back to bed and indulge in some sweet, sweet self-loving
❤️ Treat yourself to something a bit special (buy yourself a nice present online, something you’ve had your eye on maybe)
❤️ Pick up some flowers for yourself - you’re gonna be home a lot to enjoy them this week
❤️ Take a social media break & focus on doing exactly what you fancy doing
❤️ Take the focus off yourself for a while. Phone your gran, write a letter to an old friend, make a donation to a charity, buy from a black and /or LGBTQ+ owned business or something like that. (Also do that last one whenever you can). Doing something nice for someone else is always a guarantee to make you feel good
❤️ Cook, bake or make exactly what you fancy eating right now, however indulgent
❤️ And my personal favourite- dig out your bike, skateboard, rollerblades or whatever you have lying around that you loved doing as a kid outdoors - head out to the park and celebrate that kid inside, they need letting out to play now and again and today seems like a great day for that...

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I noticed we have a lot of new followers so I wanted to say hey & thank you for following & also ask where you’re all from in the world. I’m Saskia, I run Hey Saturday & I’m a Brit currently living in Spain. And you?

I’m so glad you’re here. Hey Saturday loves to help people show up authentically in their dating profile pictures to help them attract more people who resonate with them.

📌 If you want me to check out your current dating app pics and share my thoughts on them, hit me up in my DMs. I’m really up for doing Tinder Photo Surgeries on Live 😆😀

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I say this a lot but... Your photoshoot ain’t just a photoshoot... it’s your opportunity to tell people who you are. What you stand for. What makes you special. Why they should date you over everyone else.

Your profile pics should give them an insight into what it’s like to date you. To be in a relationship with you. (The best bits, of course, not the couch-potato, sweat-pant version).

Show them glimpses of what you’re about. What you like to wear. What you’re into. Where you like to hang. How you like to spend your time. Your temperament. If done well, your profile pics can help you attract your tribe, people who resonate with your vibe.

Take a fresh look at your photos next time you log on and check what they are saying about you?

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Today’s shout out goes out to all our clients who said they felt a bit silly googling ‘dating profile pics’ til they found us.
We’re so here for you 🤩

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To the lovely person who slid into my DMs with this message, just want you to know this shout out is for you. You’ve made my week & it’s only Monday 🙌🏽🙏🏽 I needed this right now, so thank you.

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• Leverage Your Points of Difference •

We’ve all seen the cookie-cutter, identical dating app profiles & profile pics. Lots of people write variations of the same thing in their bio and have the group shot, the holiday snap & that pro one taken at their best mate’s wedding two years ago.

In 2021, we’re ready for something different. Different is the key word here. We’re dying to find out what makes you different to all the others. What makes you stand out? What’s your USP? Your secret sauce?

If you’re bold enough to start digging deep and reveal real snippets about who you are, it will pay off. You’ll start attracting people who resonate more deeply with who you are.

Before you capture some new profile pics, take the time to sit down & answer this question honestly:
What is it about you that makes you stand out from others?
Write down as many things as you can. It should cover passions, interests, skills, talents, quirks and anything else that makes you distinctly you. These are your points of difference. Choose the most positive ones and start finding ways to showcase them in your profile photos.

Dating profile pictures that actually reveal elements of your authentic story, are so much more powerful and compelling than regular photos.

This small effort could be the one thing that helps you find your lobster 🦞

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I’m finally figuring out that I can meditate & it’s not just a beautiful thing but a powerful thing. I’m still really new to it all so today, I’m very excited to be chatting here on Live to Hannah from @breathelikeabadass, a meditation teacher. She also empowers women to become more successful in life and business through her coaching and yes... meditation plays a key role in this.

I have lots of questions for her including asking about techniques for feeling calm and confident ahead of dating photoshoots and Zoom dates. Want to join?

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Oye, yo adoro esta cita 💚 What a cool way with words George has. I can feel some horizontal desires coming on right now, I mean it’s still the weekend...

Also... a little-known dating photo hack is have a dance to a favourite tune either before or during your dating photoshoot to get in a confident headspace, feel good and look relaxed in your profile pics. Works like a charm.... 🎧

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