21 things that might make life a little less stressful in the time of Coronavirus

21 things that might make life a little less stressful in the time of Coronavirus

I’ve been quiet, really quiet the last 10 days or so, watching the world unfold like something out of a zombie movie. I’ve been prepped for a Zombie apocalypse since forever – I’ve trained in Muay Thai, have bottles of water stashed away in a kitchen cupboard, figured out an escape route to get to the Isle of Man (I’ll come get you first, if you need me to) but now faced with the reality of this attack – not from zombies but from an unseen enemy – I’ve been quiet. Behind the scenes, I’ve been helping our photographers and current clients navigate our way through the practicalities of postponing, cancelling, rescheduling shoots. I’ve been looking after myself, keeping my spirits up but out there – on social media as me and as Hey Saturday – I’ve been quiet. Looking on in wonder and with anxiety at what’s been happening but not quite knowing what to say or do. I’ve felt frozen to be honest.

good vibes

I still don’t know what to say or do really, it’s all a bit overwhelming, but I’m starting to unfreeze. I’ve been surfing the net during this time trying to make sense of it all. I haven’t, of course, made sense of anything… but I have come across some stuff, that I think is pretty cool – stuff that might inspire you, make you laugh or just help make you feel a little less anxious. So I thought I’d share it with you guys, in case you find it pretty cool too.

Love, dating and connecting 

01. If you’re looking for creative ways to date right now, you could check out what Nina had planned for her first date with a guy. I love this, it genuinely made me smile (in what felt like a long time). If you want to find out what actually ended up happening (it’s lovely) follow the thread here.

02. Self-love in the time of corornavirus takes on a whole nuther meaning! If you’re self-isolating on your own, head here to get your free vibrator. Surely this is one not to be missed. Be quick though, stock is running low at the time of writing.

03. If you’re single, you might want to sign up for The Single Supplement, created by freelance journalist, Nicola Slawson. She has created a Facebook community of single people and she writes this weekly newsletter packed to the rafters with inspiring, informative and cool articles and tips relating to living your best single life.

04. This guy’s dating app profile tho’ – it’s a bit spesh.

05. I love these tiny love stories from the New York Times. It features readers stories in 100 words or less. This is perfect if your attention span is shot to shit right now. Hello hello… Bueller? Bueller Bueller? 25 feelgood things

06. I love Shelf Help. I love their brand actually, which is why I’ve signed up for their newsletters, I’m not actually a member. But I thought I’d share in case you haven’t heard of it. Shelf Help is a global platform, book club and community dedicated to self-help and self-development and their bookclub is going virtual for now. You can experiment with new self-help strategies with others from home.

Learning and creating

07. OK, this is seriously floating my boat right now. Head here to learn how to print like that god of all things cool, Andy Warhol.

08. How about cranking things up a notch? You can enrol on 10 university art classes for free right here.

09. And this is really cool too – sign up for this 28 day creativity challenge with The Sketch Book Project.

Dodging the 24 hour news cycle

To minimise my stress levels, I’m being really wary of what I’m listening to or watching. To be fair, I stopped watching the news when I started working for myself and, now more than ever, it’s a good time to kickstart an information diet rather than sitting glued to a 24 hour ticker tape of rolling bad news cycles. And definitely give Twitter’s ‘Trending’ section a wide berth, that’s enough to induce a panic attack for me these days. I’ve found that being more mindful about what I do and don’t consume has been great for my mental health. And I’ve just had a hiatus from social media over the last few weeks, which has been really good for me. If you need inspiration for other stuff you might want to consume instead, I can recommend this….

10. I loved this virtual walk through of the Dorothea Lange exhibit at the MoMA.

11. Also great news from the BFI. They had to cancel BFI Flare, the UK’s biggest LGTBQ+ film festival, but…. they’re putting 230 movies online bringing you ‘BFI Flare at Home‘.

12. I’m currently reading or have just finished a lot of amazing books – there were too many to list but here’s an iPhone pic of them and I’d recommend all of them. These are 5* all the way, baby. And um yeah, I am reading a book by a shaman. My sis gave it to me for Christmas (it’s not something I would ever have chosen) and it’s surprising good and now, with this crisis, makes even more sense. Seriously.

13. And if want to check out some podcasts that might help you if you’re thinking about approaching work and life differently now, I put this list together of some brilliant podcasts that help you get your shit together. I wrote this long before the onset of the coronavirus but, if you have time to kill now and want to do it productively, these are great.

Chilling

14. But yeah, that said, we still need to just chill out and watch Netflix with no agenda other than to switch off and relax, right? Check out this cool list of the most anticipated movies of 2021.

Working from home

15. It’s been 8 years of working from home for me but this article, The worst things about WFT and weird way to beat them, still made me lol. I’d totally recommend this for anyone who is new to the game and navigating their way through it.

Staying well

16. I love this global mental health live stream by Made of Millions, an organisation that uses the power of art, media and digital technology to transform how the world perceives mental health.

17. Worrying about your fitness levels? You could always do what this guy did and run a marathon on your balcony! His only comment was ‘the course was ugly, no atmosphere’.

18. Worried about all the negative thoughts taking over your brain right now? I love this article from my super smart friend and all-round amazing person, Francesca Hogi

19. And if you want to learn to deal with uncertainty better, you might want to check out this article or even sign up for a free trial of uncertainty training, called Fall in Love with Uncertainty… wait what now?? Yes, it’s a thing.

20. If you’re self-isolating alone, one of Giles’ friends has created a new free Facebook group, The Single’s Sanctuary; connect to the loving safe space within. It’s a space to support single people during these challenging times.

21. Finally, need some tunes to chill you out. Rainy Days in Tokyo is my current fave when I’m feeling stressed.

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dating app profile

What really matters to you in life? What’s important to you?

Showing up authentically on your dating photoshoot and in your dating life is the biggest gift you can give yourself.

It enables you to meet and connect with people on a deeper level. Imagine - no pretence and no games 🙌🏽

And it all starts with knowing yourself better.

I reckon a good starting place is writing out a list of all the things in life that are important to you.

We encourage our clients to do this ahead of their dating photoshoots.

It helps you get to the heart of what you want out of life, what you want out of your love life.

Knowing ourselves is a life-long process but it’s so good to check in on ourselves often, especially when we’re starting big things like online dating.

And by taking the time to think about it and let us, your photographers know, it helps us more easily create dating profile pictures that represent what you stand for. What you’re about. What makes you unique and special.

On my List of Stuff I Care About, I have:
- being creative
- keep on learning & growing
- love & connection
- being physically active
- helping people
- finding peace in nature

My dating profile pictures might then include me taking photos or painting, reading a self-help book or studying, walking or meditating in nature. I might wear my jumper with the word ‘love’ on it. I might be drinking tea in front of a cafe with friends (who aren’t actually in the pic). When planning your shoot, your list acts as a guide to make sure you’re telling people something meaningful about you.

✨What’s on your list?

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To create a dating profile that is:
- engaging
- impactful
- meaningful
- memorable

...here’s a powerful hack.

You can turn to the power of visual storytelling.

Our brains are actually hardwired for both visuals and stories so it’s a double whammy.

It’s so much easier to connect with likeminded people when you’re engaging their brain in these two ways.

Our brain is hardwired to think in narrative patterns, in fact we like to fill in the gaps ourselves.

By using your dating profile pictures to tell people more about who you are and what it would be like to date you, you’ll more easily be able to build an emotional connection with them.

If you’re unsure where to start, focus on using your profile pictures to tell people what makes you stand out.

Think about what makes you different to others. What makes you special.

Once you’ve nailed this, you’ll be showing people why they should date you over others.

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I’m taking a break from our regularly scheduled programming to celebrate my dad’s 90th birthday 🎉

He taught me the meaning of unconditional love, the importance of searching out an unselfish life partner, the importance of committing to a healthy lifestyle and the importance of living a life of courage - choosing to marry my mum at a time when interracial relationships were still illegal in many places.

I feel incredibly lucky to have such a kind, loving and courageous dad 🎉

Love my dad ❤️

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My favourite kinda email, especially on the weekend.

Huge shout out to Alison for creating yet another super-happy Hey Saturday client. You rule!

These are the things that make my day ✨✨

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When you love & accept yourself, you move different.

It’s sexy & irresistible.

People want to be in your orbit.

And you just know the camera’s gonna love you too.

Loving and accepting yourself is a process, sure. But one worth working on every day.

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I talk a lot on here about the importance of creating visually compelling dating photos. But creating emotionally compelling dating photos is important too.

The ideal dating profile is both visually and emotionally compelling.

But how can you create an emotionally compelling profile?

Well a good starting place is asking yourself this question. How do you want to make them feel when they look at your profile?

Do you want them to feel happy, optimistic, inspired, energetic, calm, playful, entertained, warm, loving, goofy, serious, welcome, awed.. or my personal favourites intrigued & delighted?

Wanna try? Write down a few words that sum up what you want to evoke in them when they look at your profile pictures.

Now you have a starting point from which to build on.

If you've written down words like happy, inspired, playful, warm - then keep these in mind, when creating your profile photos. Lead by example. You'll need to be channelling these emotions in the photos as they're being taken. Choose outfits, backdrops, colours and props that align with the vibe you're aiming to portray.

In your bio, think about the words you're using and how you're using them. Instead of telling people about you in a linear way, try telling a story. A genuine story that makes YOU feel something. Chance are, they will feel it too.

The minute you make someone feel something - something that they want to be feeling, you’ve created a meaningful connection.

And your dating profile, in essence, is a tool to help you build these connections.

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Oh hello! Just heard from LoveConnection.org that we’re at number 5 in the relationship blog charts in the US. 5 out of 100. Hot dang 🏆🔥✨ Feeling that. And a huge Hey Saturday shout out to @laurenpsyk for contributing such quality articles over the years helping make the blog such a success 👏🏽👏🏽

Since I decided to start my days from a place of appreciation these days, I’m definitely much happier for the rest of the day.

What are you appreciating today?

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When it comes to your dating life, what stories are you telling yourself?

All the good ones are already married, so it’s unlikely I’ll meet anyone worthwhile? • I’m too old for this sh*t? • I’m not where I want to be in life, so no one is going to be into me? • Dating is such a chore, I just want it to be over? • I have so much going on at work, I don’t have time to meet anyone?

It’s worth being mindful of the stories you create for yourself around your dating experiences. I know, from my own experiences, that they can hold you back.

In my early days of online dating, I used to tell myself that because I’m a bit of an introvert who’d lived on my own for many years, I couldn’t imagine finding someone I could handle living with. Surely they’d drive me up the wall, just by being in my space... never mind all the change they’d bring into my routine!

After some years of this, I came to realise that this wasn’t helpful thinking. I seemed to be attracting guys who would do just that & feed into my negative bias. And then the more that happens, the more you want to believe your story, of course.

I was repeating this story many times to friends and family and it dawned on me that perhaps I was creating my own negative outcome. The more I spoke this ‘truth’, the more men came along who lived up to it.

I needed to test out a new approach. I decided i needed to change tactics and see if I could attract a better result.

I dropped that story and instead told myself, that when I met someone who was a good fit for me, our lives would mesh together beautifully.

I’ve lived with Giles now for 10 out of the 12 years we’ve been together and our lives mesh together beautifully. I’m pretty certain that I wouldn’t have attracted him into my life with my old, unhelpful narrative holding me back.

What dating narrative are you telling yourself?

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What I love about helping our clients visually share their story in their profile pictures, is that it actively encourages them to step back from their busy lives for a hot moment and look more deeply into their values, their lifestyle, passions and vibe.

If you roll with it, it can become a perfect opportunity for reflection and growth as you take a moment to think about what you’d like your dating app photos and profile to say about you.

It’s a gift in a way.

An opportunity to get closer to figuring out who you are, who you want to be, what you want and, crucially, who you want to be with on this journey. This feels pretty cool to me. It’s not easy and I know there are clients who push back. But it can be the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself and for your love life ✨

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The best dating app profile pics give people an insight into what it would be like to date you and be in a relationship with you.

If dating is the main thing happening in your life, though, you’re probably going to struggle to enjoy the dating process.

It becomes a much more enjoyable experience when you focus on creating a good life for yourself ... whilst making sure to set aside time and space for dating within that.

Plus, as soon as you start throwing yourself into creating a good life for yourself, you’ll find it easier to create eye-catching profile pictures that reflect who you are and what you’re about.

People are drawn to people who are passionate about things and engaged with the world around them, so you’ll notice a much better response to these kinds of profile pics 🙌🏽

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✨ The Unexpected Benefit of Dating During a Pandemic ✨

Online dating is challenging at the best of times... but throw in a highly contagious, deadly virus, confusing government directives & national social distancing mandates & it’s no wonder people have been struggling since the start of the pandemic.

Because of this, over the last year, there have been shifts in how people approach dating... but could they, despite everything, actually be beneficial?

Trust has taken on a whole new significance. People are having to weigh their emotional and physical needs against (life and death) safety concerns.

With this in mind, it’s not a surprise that research is demonstrating that people are craving deeper connections with the people they’re meeting online.

For anyone who is over hook ups and looking for lasting relationships, this is good news.

People are asking themselves questions like ‘is this someone I could handle another lockdown with?’.

Many people are being more intentional about who they spend time with. And lockdown has taken away the noise and craziness of regular life, opening up space to get to know the people we’re dating in a different way. People are focusing on getting to know them emotionally and mentally before connecting physically.

Many are shifting into slow dating, it seems, and research is suggesting this may last long after lockdown has ended.

*this is an excerpt of a blog post I’m writing about the unexpected benefits of dating during a pandemic. I’ll share the link when it’s done, if you’re interested 👀

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I don’t know who needs to hear this but we’re gonna be back in action soon in the UK, doing what we do & love ⚡️⚡️⚡️

Very excited for this.

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Choose profile pics that tell people what it would be like to date you. What it would be like to be in a relationship with you. This will help you attract people who resonate more with your vibe.

Show them who you are, what you love, where you like to hang out, what you love to do.

Showing up authentically in your photos will help secure more and better quality dates 🙌🏽.

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