Why You Need An Online Dating Coach

Why You Need An Online Dating Coach

You’ve got yourself some amazing dating pictures and are excited to start meeting new people, but what do you need to do next? Online dating and dating apps can be frustrating if you aren’t sure how to use them properly. So, to help, we asked our friend and leading Dating Coach James Preece to explain exactly what he does and how his services may be able to help you.

James Preece has been working in the dating industry for over 15 years and is a coach for many different dating brands around the world. Here are his most common reasons why you may choose to work with him.

You are inexperienced or haven’t been on the scene in a while

Maybe it’s been a long time since your last date. Maybe you’ve been too busy to try or you’ve been focusing on yourself. Maybe you’ve recently separated from a long-term partner. If you’ve been off the dating scene for a while, coming back can be confusing. There may be new lingo. Meeting people may have changed. Protocols for the first date may be different. These are things an online dating coach can help you with. They can also help you with choosing first-date activities.

 

You need a great dating profile, but you’re stumped

A dating coach will help you to craft an amazing profile that stands out from all the rest. Your online presence will make as great of an impact as you’d make in person. First impressions are the most important, after all. This is true with online dating as well and a first impression is made through your profile. Coaching will also guide you through the online dating process, including sending messages. You’ll know exactly how to charm anyone and land that first date.

James Preece Dating CoachShot by Saskia for Hey Saturday, London

You’re insecure or awkward when it comes to intimacy

Many people are insecure when it comes to emotional intimacy. Unfortunately, that results in some people shutting down their emotions entirely. Instead of following that route, you can make use of an online dating coach to help you get over that fear. Through coaching, you can boost your self-confidence and feel more secure approaching other people. You’ll learn how to start and hold a conversation. This can be beneficial if you’re shy too!

You don’t know your personal strengths and weaknesses

Professionally, you may know exactly what works for you and what doesn’t. Do you know the same details on a more intimate level? Dating may be a bit like building an enterprise, but there are many differences too. An online dating coach can help you to figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are. Together, you can apply this information to your dating life and make the changes that set you towards your ideal future.

James Preece Dating Coach

Shot by Saskia for Hey Saturday, London

You need a clear vision of your future

If you’re looking for that special someone, it can be easy to get swept up in the search. You hardly stop to think about what happens next. The reality is, you need to know the next steps too. Once you find that special someone, what are you hoping/looking for? Do you know? Before getting into the dating scene, you may want to decide what your future should look like. The online dating coach can help you to figure out exactly what you’re looking for and help you to see the bigger picture for yourself.

You don’t have enough time!

One of the benefits of a dating coach is helping you find a balance between work and your love life. There is a good chance you spend all your time engaged in work-related activities. When you do get the rare moments to yourself, you still don’t have enough time to find a companion. Searching for someone does take a good amount of time, especially when you account for screening out non-compatible matches. Using a dating coach can help you to make the most of your time.

If you’d like to find out more James Preece and how he might be able to help you, do have a look at his site HERE.

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I talk a lot on here about the importance of creating visually compelling dating photos. But creating emotionally compelling dating photos is important too.

The ideal dating profile is both visually and emotionally compelling.

But how can you create an emotionally compelling profile?

Well a good starting place is asking yourself this question. How do you want to make them feel when they look at your profile?

Do you want them to feel happy, optimistic, inspired, energetic, calm, playful, entertained, warm, loving, goofy, serious, welcome, awed.. or my personal favourites intrigued & delighted?

Wanna try? Write down a few words that sum up what you want to evoke in them when they look at your profile pictures.

Now you have a starting point from which to build on.

If you've written down words like happy, inspired, playful, warm - then keep these in mind, when creating your profile photos. Lead by example. You'll need to be channelling these emotions in the photos as they're being taken. Choose outfits, backdrops, colours and props that align with the vibe you're aiming to portray.

In your bio, think about the words you're using and how you're using them. Instead of telling people about you in a linear way, try telling a story. A genuine story that makes YOU feel something. Chance are, they will feel it too.

The minute you make someone feel something - something that they want to be feeling, you’ve created a meaningful connection.

And your dating profile, in essence, is a tool to help you build these connections.

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Oh hello! Just heard from LoveConnection.org that we’re at number 5 in the relationship blog charts in the US. 5 out of 100. Hot dang 🏆🔥✨ Feeling that. And a huge Hey Saturday shout out to @laurenpsyk for contributing such quality articles over the years helping make the blog such a success 👏🏽👏🏽

Since I decided to start my days from a place of appreciation these days, I’m definitely much happier for the rest of the day.

What are you appreciating today?

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When it comes to your dating life, what stories are you telling yourself?

All the good ones are already married, so it’s unlikely I’ll meet anyone worthwhile? • I’m too old for this sh*t? • I’m not where I want to be in life, so no one is going to be into me? • Dating is such a chore, I just want it to be over? • I have so much going on at work, I don’t have time to meet anyone?

It’s worth being mindful of the stories you create for yourself around your dating experiences. I know, from experience, that they can hold you back.

In my early days of online dating, I used to tell myself that because I’m a bit of an introvert who’d lived on my own for many years, I couldn’t imagine finding someone I could handle living with. Surely they’d drive me up the wall, just by being in my space... never mind all the change they’d bring into my routine!

After some years of this, I came to realise that this wasn’t helpful thinking. I seemed to be attracting guys who would do just that & feed into my negative bias. And then the more that happens, the more you want to believe your story, of course.

I was repeating this story many times to friends and family and it dawned on me that perhaps I was creating my own negative outcome. The more I spoke this ‘truth’, the more men came along who lived up to it.

I needed to test out a new approach. I decided i needed to change tactics and see if I could attract a better result.

I dropped that story and instead told myself, that when I met someone who was a good fit for me, our lives would mesh together beautifully.

I’ve lived with Giles now for 10 out of the 12 years we’ve been together and our lives mesh together beautifully. I’m pretty certain that I wouldn’t have attracted him into my life with my old, unhelpful narrative holding me back.

What dating narrative are you telling yourself?

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What I love about helping our clients visually share their story in their profile pictures, is that it actively encourages them to step back from their busy lives for a hot moment and look more deeply into their values, their lifestyle, passions and vibe.

If you roll with it, it can become a perfect opportunity for reflection and growth as you take a moment to think about what you’d like your dating app photos and profile to say about you.

It’s a gift in a way.

An opportunity to get closer to figuring out who you are, who you want to be, what you want and, crucially, who you want to be with on this journey. This feels pretty cool to me. It’s not easy and I know there are clients who push back. But it can be the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself and for your love life ✨

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The best dating app profile pics give people an insight into what it would be like to date you and be in a relationship with you.

If dating is the main thing happening in your life, though, you’re probably going to struggle to enjoy the dating process.

It becomes a much more enjoyable experience when you focus on creating a good life for yourself ... whilst making sure to set aside time and space for dating within that.

Plus, as soon as you start throwing yourself into creating a good life for yourself, you’ll find it easier to create eye-catching profile pictures that reflect who you are and what you’re about.

People are drawn to people who are passionate about things and engaged with the world around them, so you’ll notice a much better response to these kinds of profile pics 🙌🏽

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✨ The Unexpected Benefit of Dating During a Pandemic ✨

Online dating is challenging at the best of times... but throw in a highly contagious, deadly virus, confusing government directives & national social distancing mandates & it’s no wonder people have been struggling since the start of the pandemic.

Because of this, over the last year, there have been shifts in how people approach dating... but could they, despite everything, actually be beneficial?

Trust has taken on a whole new significance. People are having to weigh their emotional and physical needs against (life and death) safety concerns.

With this in mind, it’s not a surprise that research is demonstrating that people are craving deeper connections with the people they’re meeting online.

For anyone who is over hook ups and looking for lasting relationships, this is good news.

People are asking themselves questions like ‘is this someone I could handle another lockdown with?’.

Many people are being more intentional about who they spend time with. And lockdown has taken away the noise and craziness of regular life, opening up space to get to know the people we’re dating in a different way. People are focusing on getting to know them emotionally and mentally before connecting physically.

Many are shifting into slow dating, it seems, and research is suggesting this may last long after lockdown has ended.

*this is an excerpt of a blog post I’m writing about the unexpected benefits of dating during a pandemic. I’ll share the link when it’s done, if you’re interested 👀

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I don’t know who needs to hear this but we’re gonna be back in action soon in the UK, doing what we do & love ⚡️⚡️⚡️

Very excited for this.

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Choose profile pics that tell people what it would be like to date you. What it would be like to be in a relationship with you. This will help you attract people who resonate more with your vibe.

Show them who you are, what you love, where you like to hang out, what you love to do.

Showing up authentically in your photos will help secure more and better quality dates 🙌🏽.

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Wait what? If you’re not doing this already, here’s a super simple way to increase the attention you’re attracting online.... by 27% according to @tinder.

As an experiment this week, swap out your leading photo if it doesn’t clearly show all of your face. Swap out pictures of your face that are in profile, half hidden in shadow or by sunglasses, anything like that.

Choose, instead, a good quality, well-lit, smiling close-up of your face and shoulders.

Make sure your smile or laugh is a natural one - you’ll know by checking to make sure your eyes are engaged in the smile too.

They’ll be the tell-tell crinkling of your upper cheeks. This is important to check as people are subconsciously drawn to genuine smiles and put off by fake ones.

And make sure your eyes are looking at the camera. It’s more engaging. Your eyes are the most important part of the photo - it where people look first and subconsciously decide whether you’re trustworthy or not.

OK, let me know how you get on. Oh yes and don’t forget to include bright red somewhere in the shot, if you can, to really maximise the attention you’re attracting to your profile.

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Whether you’re aware or not, your clothes are telling people a powerful story about you.

They can reveal things like what mood you’re in, what kind of lifestyle you lead, what you’re into, how much money you might earn and even how you feel about yourself.

Wow, ok. Super revealing. (And also I’m really glad no one has been able to see what I’ve been wearing the last month or so 🙈).

But, that said, there’s evidence to suggest you don’t have to dress how you feel... but how you want to feel. Brilliant!

This means, when you’re heading out for your dating photoshoot and on dates, you can choose clothes with intention. Ones that make you feel sexy, confident, in control, feminine, cool, flirty, formal, informal, comfortable or whatever you want to say about you. Keep it authentic though. The clothes need to feel right, don’t force it.

I love knowing that simply by tweaking your outfit, you can improve your whole mood and uplift your confidence levels 🔥🔥

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It’s party time at Hey Saturday HQ 🌿

We have just started a partnership with @onetreeplanted. For every Hey Saturday photoshoot we sell, a tree is planted in Ethiopia.

I’ve finally woken up and realised you can’t build a just and equitable society on a planet that’s been destabilised by human activity.

The fights against climate change and racial injustice are deeply intertwined as marginalised communities are disproportionately impacted by it.

Recently, I’ve fallen in love with trees through my forest bathing practice and they are pretty dang magical at helping to save our planet.

The tree planting project in Ethiopia links environmental restoration with income generation, providing the local community with the knowledge and tools to conserve their land, protect their water supply and create a sustainable, diverse economy for future generations 🙌🏽

*Huge thank you to David Attenborough whose powerful documentary, Our Planet, needs to be seen by everyone. It’s a huge fuck-off wake up call. We’re killing off the planet and marginalised communities are already suffering for it.

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💋9 indulgent ways to be your own dang Valentine💋

If you’re single today and feeling it, maybe it’s time to get indulgent and celebrate yourself and your most important relationship ever. If you can be someone who makes YOU happy, that’s literally the most important thing.

Plus, being single is cool af and always worth celebrating when you can. Here are 9 indulgent ways you might celebrate yourself today... give me a shout if you have others 🙌🏽

❤️ Dress up
❤️ Fill your day with positive affirmations spoken out loud to the mirror and then repeated in your head like a background mantra (sounds woo woo, but once you get over that, this is pure awesomeness)
❤️ Go back to bed and indulge in some sweet, sweet self-loving
❤️ Treat yourself to something a bit special (buy yourself a nice present online, something you’ve had your eye on maybe)
❤️ Pick up some flowers for yourself - you’re gonna be home a lot to enjoy them this week
❤️ Take a social media break & focus on doing exactly what you fancy doing
❤️ Take the focus off yourself for a while. Phone your gran, write a letter to an old friend, make a donation to a charity, buy from a black and /or LGBTQ+ owned business or something like that. (Also do that last one whenever you can). Doing something nice for someone else is always a guarantee to make you feel good
❤️ Cook, bake or make exactly what you fancy eating right now, however indulgent
❤️ And my personal favourite- dig out your bike, skateboard, rollerblades or whatever you have lying around that you loved doing as a kid outdoors - head out to the park and celebrate that kid inside, they need letting out to play now and again and today seems like a great day for that...

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#galentines
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