Why You Need An Online Dating Coach

Why You Need An Online Dating Coach

You’ve got yourself some amazing dating pictures and are excited to start meeting new people, but what do you need to do next? Online dating and dating apps can be frustrating if you aren’t sure how to use them properly. So, to help, we asked our friend and leading Dating Coach James Preece to explain exactly what he does and how his services may be able to help you.

James Preece has been working in the dating industry for over 15 years and is a coach for many different dating brands around the world. Here are his most common reasons why you may choose to work with him.

You are inexperienced or haven’t been on the scene in a while

Maybe it’s been a long time since your last date. Maybe you’ve been too busy to try or you’ve been focusing on yourself. Maybe you’ve recently separated from a long-term partner. If you’ve been off the dating scene for a while, coming back can be confusing. There may be new lingo. Meeting people may have changed. Protocols for the first date may be different. These are things an online dating coach can help you with. They can also help you with choosing first-date activities.

 

You need a great dating profile, but you’re stumped

A dating coach will help you to craft an amazing profile that stands out from all the rest. Your online presence will make as great of an impact as you’d make in person. First impressions are the most important, after all. This is true with online dating as well and a first impression is made through your profile. Coaching will also guide you through the online dating process, including sending messages. You’ll know exactly how to charm anyone and land that first date.

James Preece Dating CoachShot by Saskia for Hey Saturday, London

You’re insecure or awkward when it comes to intimacy

Many people are insecure when it comes to emotional intimacy. Unfortunately, that results in some people shutting down their emotions entirely. Instead of following that route, you can make use of an online dating coach to help you get over that fear. Through coaching, you can boost your self-confidence and feel more secure approaching other people. You’ll learn how to start and hold a conversation. This can be beneficial if you’re shy too!

You don’t know your personal strengths and weaknesses

Professionally, you may know exactly what works for you and what doesn’t. Do you know the same details on a more intimate level? Dating may be a bit like building an enterprise, but there are many differences too. An online dating coach can help you to figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are. Together, you can apply this information to your dating life and make the changes that set you towards your ideal future.

James Preece Dating Coach

Shot by Saskia for Hey Saturday, London

You need a clear vision of your future

If you’re looking for that special someone, it can be easy to get swept up in the search. You hardly stop to think about what happens next. The reality is, you need to know the next steps too. Once you find that special someone, what are you hoping/looking for? Do you know? Before getting into the dating scene, you may want to decide what your future should look like. The online dating coach can help you to figure out exactly what you’re looking for and help you to see the bigger picture for yourself.

You don’t have enough time!

One of the benefits of a dating coach is helping you find a balance between work and your love life. There is a good chance you spend all your time engaged in work-related activities. When you do get the rare moments to yourself, you still don’t have enough time to find a companion. Searching for someone does take a good amount of time, especially when you account for screening out non-compatible matches. Using a dating coach can help you to make the most of your time.

If you’d like to find out more James Preece and how he might be able to help you, do have a look at his site HERE.

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Great online dating photographers are focused on human experience, rather than the size of our lenses.

Yeah… I’d go as far to say, we view our photoshoots as an emotional journey with a physical output more than anything else.

We want to help you let people in and get a better sense of who you are… the real you, of course, (in reply to a comment I got yesterday), if your photos are going to be meaningful, in any way.

When you can bring your whole self to the shoot, it’s kind of magic, really. When you can craft images that tell stories about who you are, it’s powerful and empowering, because when stories are told, meaning is made.

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How you show up for your profile pictures matters. The energy you show up with for your photoshoot, is the same energy that online daters can see and feel when they look at your profile pictures.

And yes, you can absolutely see and feel energy in pictures. You can see if someone is happy, dejected or confident, for example.

Confidence is energy. It’s not a ‘trait’ that you either are or aren’t, it’s a state. Like happiness, sadness & joy, it’s an energy you can tap into.

To create the most attractive and magnetic profile pictures, tap into the energy you want to see in your photos.

But how?

Get excited about how these profile pictures are going to open up doors, connect you to all kinds of interesting people, potentially lead to something so good, it’s life-changing.

Harness these positive kind of thoughts and embody them through your breathing, through smiling and laughing, through your body language. You know how smiling makes you feel happy and standing in a power pose makes you feel more confident? Yes 🙌🏽 that.

Your body language in your pictures communicates a lot about your energy and vibe.

Include things you really love in your photoshoot. You might wear something you love, go somewhere you love, hold something you love or, even better, get in flow and do something you love.

Including things that spark joy will impact your body language and your whole vibe.

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Hey go-getters, thrill-seekers, online daters... have you checked out the podcast Dates & Mates yet? If you’re single and craving connection in a digitally-driven world, then head to Apple podcasts and hit subscribe.

This show is seriously guaranteed to give you more fun than your ex. And boy, what a show. The host Damona Hoffman, already one of the coolest humans on the planet, is now also the Official Love Expert of the Drew Barrymore Show ✨ as well an advice columnist for The Washington Post & much more.

I’ll admit I was a bit of a hot mess as a guest on her show but it was ace to be included on her latest episode. I share how to do online dating photos right and magnetise the best matches to you.

And don’t forget to hit subscribe, there are soooo many good episodes you’re going to wanna work your way through.

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You are as hot as you think you are.

I love this.

When I was told this, back when I was online dating, I have to say it was a bit of a game changer. Your first instinct is to think, ‘Wait, what?’.

But then I thought back to people I’d met in my (very) long and varied dating life... and how my first impressions of their attractiveness could wildly change as soon as I started engaging with them.

That’s because I was seeing them as they see themselves.

Self-love levels the playing field. You don’t have to be the hottest person in the room to be the hottest person in the room... you just have to THINK you are.

Wow, I love that. It means being attractive, magnetic, desired is within all of us. We just gotta dig deep and love ourselves. No way round it.

Your vibe reflects the way you see yourself and cues others to respond accordingly.

I’m just getting into the Law of Attraction and figuring out how to raise my vibrations, which builds on this. And it’s so relevant to dating, I’ve got a feeling I’m gonna be sharing my learnings on here soon.

Anyone got any recommendations of people I can follow who are talking about vibrating higher? Please share 🙏🏽

I’m ready to vibe higher. Are you?

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Your dating app profile ain’t the place to blend in. I know we all want to belong and fit in. But... this isn’t the time.

So many profiles are literally copy cats of each other. It’s sooo boring. Especially given the fact we’re all so different & amazing once you get to know us.

Take a risk. Reveal something meaningful about yourself in your profile. Write down all the things that make you stand out from others and then choose a couple of those to reveal in your profile photos.

People are gonna stare.
Make it worth their while.

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

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This message makes my heart do little backflips. I love that this client felt seen by Nicole and was able to express her best self.

And I love that she took the time to share her gratitude with me and Nicole.

I have a strong feeling that when this client finds love, it’s going to be pretty special.

💛 Very exciting 💛

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I’m sharing my face because we have a bunch of new followers, yay hi there, and also because my jumper is very on brand and that’s kind of what I wanted to talk about today.

In your profile pics, your clothes are saying a lot more about you than you might think.

Our clothes are telling people a lot about our lifestyle, our social status, our personality and our vibe ... oh yeah and in my case, my job!

So what do you want your clothes to say about you? That you’re cool, confident, nerdish, feminine, comfortable, stylish, independent, fashionable, glam, extrovert, etc?

By choosing your clothes with intention, you can reveal elements of your personality that might otherwise not come across easily in your pictures.

And our clothes choices actually have more power than we think.

The psychologist, Dr Jennifer Baumgartner (a total expert on this stuff), says,

‘You can use your wardrobe to change how other people perceive you, and even more importantly - how you see yourself’.

I’ve shared that before but I love it so much. This is that moment when the outfit you put on makes you feel invincible & unstoppable. Perfect for a photoshoot or some first date action.

Lots of photoshoots coming up this bank holiday weekend, so this is your reminder to prep your outfits with intention.

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This is big-ass Hey Saturday energy right here...

‘Shoot your shot’ is:

🎯 to let go of your pride & pursue someone you’re into;

🎯 to be brave & have the audacity to do something that might be embarrassing;

🎯 to do, say or claim a thing that is potentially outside of your range of abilities.

This is the kinda energy that works so well on dating photoshoots & online dating.

People out there, living their best lives, willing to shoot their shot.

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Nah, I don’t mean that kind of suck😆

I mean dare to be real. Dare to be vulnerable. Dare to try something different. Dare to date someone different. Dare to put yourself out there. Dare to dance on your dating photoshoot. Dare to mess up. Dare to stand out on your dating profile. Dare to be disliked by some.

I think it was Kurt Vonnegut who said, ‘How embarrassing to be human’.

Well quite!

But go suck, I dare you!

At the end of that lies adventure, mayhem, great profile pics and, with a little bit of luck, authentic love.

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One of the best gifts you can give yourself? Letting go of what other people think about you.

Most of us worry too much about what others think to the point that we are far too inhibited and far less spontaneous and joyful than we could be.

Truth is (studies show), we consistently overestimate just how much - and how badly - others think about our failings.

Problem is, giving fewer fucks is super hard, we are such a social species.

We care so much about others because our happiness depends on the quality of our relationships. We need people and we want to be in their good books so that we can belong, fit in & nurture good relationships with them.

While a certain amount of it is healthy, too much is not. But what can you do to put the breaks on?

Let’s imagine you’re on a dating photoshoot but you can’t stop worrying about what random people in the street are thinking.

In reality, you know it really doesn’t matter what those people think. You don’t know them from Adam. And your photos... well they might just help you transform your love life, right, so they’re kind of important.

But knowing that doesn’t stop you feeling embarrassed.

Here’s one thing you could try. A moment of mindfulness.

Try six deep breaths in and out, with your photographer, feeling how the air enters and leaves your body and how your feet are connected to the ground.

At the end of this lies potential for even greater profile pics.

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You know when you connect online with someone new, but you just know straightaway that you’re going to get on really well? Yeah that.

This is Dillion. He invited me on his dating podcast, @truthaboutdating, the other day and the episode has just dropped (link in his bio).

We chatted about the importance of vibe, colour, confidence, being authentic, body language & much more.

Give it a listen 🎧 and check out his other episodes. Thanks for having me, Dillion, I really enjoyed chatting & sharing dating photo tips.

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If you’re thinking about creating some new dating profile pics, here’s some homework to help you prepare. Take a moment to ask yourself how you’d want to show up if you knew the love of your life was going to see these photos.

Photos, when created intentionally, are such a powerful tool for communicating who you are.

Plan to create photos that take people on a whistle stop tour of your vibe, your passions, your personality and your strengths.

You’ll find that you’re more easily able to connect with all and any ideal soulmates who come across your profile.

Don’t forget to keep it real. As real as you feel able.

Great photos attract attention. Authentic ones keep it.

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On dating apps, success is often determined by a split-second decision made after glimpsing, sometimes, just one photo. You gotta make sure every photo is an amazing one.

Here’s a secret hack, not many people know. Open, expansive body language in photos is crazy attractive, drawing the right kind of attention online.

This is backed by science actually - not just your friendly dating photo expert 😉

For those of you who love the science bit, academic researchers found that outstretched limbs increase attractiveness for all genders - but guys in particular. It suggests dominance for guys and confidence for guys and women.

With this in mind, make sure you take up space in your photos! Own it! Do some power poses to get in the mood. Throw your shoulders back. Fling your arms out. Have your hands spread out. Have fun experimenting.

No crossed arms or hunching over on our watch!

Be the star of every single shot. You only get 5 to 6 shots, you need to make sure all of them are doing the heavy lifting for you.

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What really matters to you in life? What’s important to you?

Showing up authentically on your dating photoshoot and in your dating life is the biggest gift you can give yourself.

It enables you to meet and connect with people on a deeper level. Imagine - no pretence and no games 🙌🏽

And it all starts with knowing yourself better.

I reckon a good starting place is writing out a list of all the things in life that are important to you.

We encourage our clients to do this ahead of their dating photoshoots.

It helps you get to the heart of what you want out of life, what you want out of your love life.

Knowing ourselves is a life-long process but it’s so good to check in on ourselves often, especially when we’re starting big things like online dating.

And by taking the time to think about it and let us, your photographers know, it helps us more easily create dating profile pictures that represent what you stand for. What you’re about. What makes you unique and special.

On my List of Stuff I Care About, I have:
- being creative
- keep on learning & growing
- love & connection
- being physically active
- helping people
- finding peace in nature

My dating profile pictures might then include me taking photos or painting, reading a self-help book or studying, walking or meditating in nature. I might wear my jumper with the word ‘love’ on it. I might be drinking tea in front of a cafe with friends (who aren’t actually in the pic). When planning your shoot, your list acts as a guide to make sure you’re telling people something meaningful about you.

✨What’s on your list?

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