the 5 characteristics of happy daters
the top five characteristics of happy daters
Lots of people I’ve spoken to in the course of my work claim to dislike online dating but do it because there are few other ways of meeting such a variety of single people so easily. I always think if you dislike doing it chances are you’re probably inadvertently putting off some pretty cool people who actually enjoy online dating and want to date people who feel the same. So, yes like pretty much all things in life, this can be fixed by adopting a more positive approach. Here are my top five characteristics of happy daters. And who doesn’t want to be a happy dater?
1. they are light hearted
Happy daters don’t take the dating journey too seriously. They might be serious about the end result – finding love – but it doesn’t mean they have to approach the dating experience seriously. They tend to go with the flow and then when rejection comes their way, it’s not a big deal.
2. they have abounding curiosity
Happy daters are up for trying new things, meeting new people (even if they don’t tick all their boxes) and asking lots of questions. They are interested in life and getting out there and finding out more about other people. People like this are great to date – they are usually entertaining, interesting and take great interest in the other person.
3. they are resilient and keep perspective
There’s a fair amount of rejection floating round in the world of online dating and the quicker you get to grips with it and keep it in perspective the easier and more fun your dating journey is going to be. Happy online daters might allow themselves a little time to mope over some rejection or other but then when their allotted moping time is up, they pick themselves up and throw themselves into the next adventure. I became an expert at this, got it down to a tee, and I was so much happier for it. In fact I met my current beau just 5 days after being dumped by a guy I’d been seeing for months. I allowed myself to wallow for a weekend (and boy was I unhappy that weekend, I remember) and then come Monday morning, I picked myself up and got back on it and then that’s when I got an email from my current beau. That was five years ago….
4. they work on their self-confidence
This is a biggie. It can be a jungle out there in the dating world, but if you enter into it trusting your own abilities, self-worth and instincts, you’re guaranteed to navigate it with minimum pain to you or others.
5. they make the time to communicate well
Happy daters are always good at communicating. They don’t mind writing the first intro email, picking up the phone to arrange a date, chatting like crazy that first night down the pub. And even ending things when the time comes. It makes for a happier dating life, guys.