5 skills to master before your next first date

5 skills to master before your next first date

The 5 skills to master before your next first date

I recently posted on Huffington Post, “The only 5 first date questions you’ll ever need” and that got me to thinking about how else you can prepare yourself so that you rock that next first date. Read on for the 5 skills I reckon you need to master to blow your date away.

 

1. Learn to avoid taking anything personally

The key to getting through lots of first dates unscathed, and in fact the key to getting through life more or less unscathed, is to avoid taking things too personally. Learn to rely on yourself and know yourself rather than seeking validation from others. When you look to others for validation you’re handing over your personal power to them to decide how to think and feel about you. Sounds awful when you put it like that, doesn’t it? If you head to your date, feeling confident and knowing you’ve got your own back no matter what happens, you’ll be able to handle any dating situation with humour, good grace and jazz hands.

 

2. Become an expert at active listening… and listen without judgement

Listening is actually a skill that most people struggle with. You know those occasions when you’re chatting to your friends or in a work meeting and you can barely contain yourself because you can’t wait to get your two pence worth in? Or those times when you’re listening but you’re also on Twitter? Well, it turns out that isn’t actually active listening. Who knew? Unless you’re a coach, therapist or someone else whose job it is to listen to people, then there’s a chance you’ve never been taught how to actively listen. But being listened to is one of the nicest feelings and a guaranteed way to make people feel special with relatively little effort. The idea isn’t to stay schtum, but to really listen to what they are saying and take the time to respond appropriately with nods of the heads and by repeating elements of what they’ve said back to them, without giving in to that overwhelming need to jump in and talk over them. One of the key things here is to listen without judgement. There’s nothing less attractive on a date (well there probably is actually but that’s another blogpost) than your date making judgemental comments about what you’re saying. Building on that, bring up things they’ve said later in the conversation to show that you were really listening and taking in what they said.

dating profile photos

 3. Ask the right questions

Asking questions is the easiest way to get people to open up and indeed asking them in the right way is better. Ask open questions rather than closed ones so that they will naturally talk more to answer them. People generally love talking about themselves so it’s a good way of relaxing your date. Questions which focus on getting them to reveal their values and lifestyle choices are great for first dates as per my blog for Huffington Post above. But another good tact to get them to warm to you and open up to you is to ask them for advice. People love to feel needed, so choose something that you think they’ll know about and ask away.

 

4. Pay super close attention to body language

About 55% of what you convey when you speak comes from body language so taking the time to register what exactly their body language is saying to you is really useful. You’ll be able to read if someone is into your or not by the direction their feet point, how they hold their arms and whether they’re smiling a lot or not. Smiling is hugely important on first dates, of course as is keeping your palms facing up. Tilting the head goes down a treat and try to keep your chin down so that it doesn’t look like you’re looking down on them. According to the experts, anything going up and elevating is open and comforting (e.g. lifting up your eyebrows) whilst you should avoid compressing anything (think of pursed lips, frowning etc). Apparently slow smiles are the best. You heard it here!

 

5. Keep it real

Online dating is full of people who, choosing to play it safe, talk about themselves in meaningless cliches. This makes it challenging to find out if someone is really a good fit for you. Opening up isn’t easy but if you focus on keeping things real and sharing the things about you that really matter, your values, your talents, your passions etc then you’ll find you’re more likely to attract people who are right for you

  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.
Online Dating Photographers
Online Dating Photographers
Online Dating Photographers
dating app profile
So yes… making eye contacting in most of your dating app profile pics is hugely important, but … including one or two candid-style shots can increase likes by 15%, according to Hinge recently. We love a candid shot…they’re natural, relaxed and capture you just living & loving your life - adding lots of value to your dating profile ✨ All photos taken by UK & US Hey Saturday photographers. You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos #explore #explorepages
Hello lovers! Our favourite vibe for a dating photoshoot is to show up with a willingness to experiment, express yourself and enjoy yourself ✨ Love the colour, the vibes and the personality captured here by our Queen of the North, Livia. Brava Livia, fab set. Photo credit: Livia for Hey Saturday, Manchester You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos #explore #explorepages
Self-acceptance makes dating photoshoots and going on dates way more fun. Self-acceptance is my answer to pretty much everything. Don’t put your dating life on hold until you’ve reached your ideal weight, got your dream job, own that outfit you love… you are enough right now ✨ All photos taken by Hey Saturday photographers. You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos #explore #explorepages
My favourite dating app photos are the ones that show people looking happy, inspired and excited with life. Vanessa over in LA has captured a beautiful, vibrant and fun set in Abbot Kinney - just fab. Photo credit: Vanessa for Hey Saturday, Los Angeles #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos #explore #explorepages
How to Dating Photo… in This Heat 🔥🔥 All photos taken by Hey Saturday photographers. You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots on the planet. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos #explore #explorepages
Our photoshoots are an adventure, not a chore. Loving these gorgeous shots captured on the colourful streets of the Northern Quarter in Manchester by our Queen of the north, Livia. Photo credit: Livia for Hey Saturday, Manchester. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos #explore #explorepages
When your skin is glowing, you’re feeling fly and you’re ready to take on the (dating) world, that’s the moment to go create some dating profile pics 🔥🔥🔥 You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots ever. 💥 All photos taken by Hey Saturday online dating photographers 💥 #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos #explore #explorepages
In today's episode of the happiest dating photoshoots on earth, we head over to the gorgeous neighbourhood of Notting Hill with Nicole as our guide, as she captures moments of joy, fun and good times. You can imagine how much I'm loving these. Photo credit: Nicole for Hey Saturday, London #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
This is a reminder to schedule joy into your daily life, your dating life and your photoshoot 💫 You have been watching Hey Saturday; the happiest dating photoshoots on earth. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
Time to get out the party poppers, Alyssa is back in town shooting for Hey Saturday, NYC, yay. Absolutely love love loving these shots of this client captured in the Lower East Side and SoHo. Together they've created some head-turning, dating photo goodness. Photo credit: Alyssa for Hey Saturday, New York City #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
How can I take my dating app profile pics to the next level? Don’t just show them what you look like; tell them what you’re made of 🔥🔥 Ps My titles synced perfectly when I posted it. Thanks Insta Reels for messing them up 🙃 You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots on earth. All photos taken by awesome Hey Saturday online dating photographers. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
The secret to having a good dating photoshoot is actually having a good time on your photoshoot (and Hey Saturday photographers know how to have a good time 🙌🏽). J'adoring this set created by Suze recently in Bristol. This client looks happy, confident and like she loves her life. The perfect vibe for dating profile pics. Kudos Suze. Photo credit: Suze for Hey Saturday, Bristol #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
Life is short and love is too important ❤️ #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
We love dating profile pics that inspire joy! And these photos from one of Nicole's recent Shoreditch shoots are giving me all the joyful feels right now - LOVING this set. Do your dating pics surprise and delight? Photo credit: Nicole for Hey Saturday, London #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
Gaining people’s trust when you’re dating is super important if you want to keep dating them. So if you show up on a first date looking really different than you portray in your profile pics, people will feel deceived… and it won’t matter how fun or lovely you are, any trust will go. The more you look like your dating app profile pics, the more honest you’ll seem and the easier it will be to attract second dates 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Great photos attract attention… But authentic ones keep it. All photos Hey Saturday photographers. You’ve been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots on the planet 🔥 #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
Plant dad! Wine and craft beer aficionado! Loving everything that's going on here. Shouts out to Vanessa for capturing this lil' bit of dating profile photo magic in the Arts District, Downtown LA Photo credit: Vanessa for Hey Saturday, Los Angeles. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
Could your worst dating app pic be losing you matches? When we look at a dating profile, we (often subconsciously) tend to look for the best pic and then do a scan to find the ‘worst’ pic. We then make a decision about whether to connect with someone or not, often based off that ‘worst’ pic. Make sure you’re 100% happy with every single shot you include 🔥🔥 You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots. #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
Where focus goes, energy flows. Be the star of every single one of your dating profile pics for maximum impact. Loving these shots taken by Alison in Dumbo, yet another gorgeous, stand out set. You bring the energy and authentic vibes, we'll bring the photo talent and good times. Photo credit: Alison for Hey Saturday, New York City #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
These are the kinda stats I love 🙌🏽 Pics which showcase a full shot of your gorgeous face are where it’s at. You have been watching Hey Saturday, the happiest dating photoshoots… #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos
Shouts out to the lovely Megan who took a wee break but is back now and shooting regularly once again at the Custard Factory in Birmingham. Loving these bold, colourful shots, Megan, total flex. Photo credit: Megan for Hey Saturday, Birmingham #singleandhappy #modernlove #mindset #loveyourself #datingwithapurpose #datingadvice #datinglife #profilepictures #profilepic #profilepics #profilephoto #onlinedating #datingphototips #happylife #happysingle #relationshipgoals #personalbrandingtips #datingapp #datingapps #datingadviceformen #datingadviceforwomen #profilephotography #visualstorytelling #onlinedatingphotographer #datingphotos